Oh Allah Save Me From The Punishment Of The Life

Advise For Muslim Sisters No Laughing, Joking, Hanging out , flirting or playful talk, With Non-Mahrams .Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to sit around and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that’s not right, even if he is ‘the Shaikh’.Allaah says: ". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner." [Al-Ahzaab:32] So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily rude, yet it is polite but firm.Staring at the brothers or ‘checking them out’ is NOT Hijaab Allah orders us to “lower your gaze” in the above verse. Why? Because a single ‘look’ can say more than a thousand words. So, even if you are properly covered, keep those eyes down, conduct yourself with ‘Hayaa’, and avoid ‘fitnah’‘Chatting’ on the internet/phone is not part of Hijaab .It is haraam for a man or woman to listen to e
achothers words with enjoyment, for fear of fitnah (temptation) There is no such thing as “we’re just friends”. Talking to non-Mahrams is wrong even if it is through the internet or telephone. There are too many stories of illegal relationships, fornications, broken homes, extra-marital affairs and runaway brides to even mention. That is why in Islam anything that leads to haraam is also haraam. Allaah says:“Do not (even) come close to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way is evil.” (Surah Israa:32)HALAL :( Woman should speak without elongating the words, making her voice soft, or raising her voice. It is forbidden being too soft in speech. It is obligatory for women to speak in an honourable manner. So that there will be no room for provocation of desires and doubts. She should speak only when necessary, and only about matters that are permissible and honourable, not evil )Add a captionHARAM :No Laughing, Joking, Hanging out , flirting or playful talk, With Non-Mahrams .
Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to sit around and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that’s not right, even if he is ‘the Shaikh’.Allaah says: ". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner." [al-Ahzaab:32]So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily rude, yet it is polite but firm

Convey the Light of Islam!

Dear all social network user 

Internet is a modern means of communicating to people in different corners of the world.At the time of Rasool (s.a.w) and Sahabahs (r.a),they used to walk on foot or riding camels, donkeys and horses as far as the distance of more than 500km, just to convey islam, but today, we are blessed; we have cars, planes, ships and the like, where we cantravel 1000km per few hours. Besides, we can just sit in our room and convey a message of Islam to millions of people around the globe. using Facebook has become a major changing force in the world. Nobody can ignore its power and influence.Muslim has to make use of it to spread the true message of Islam and remove the misunderstandings about this great religion. We will not reign supreme if we failto utilize all means to mobilize this religion. We are commanded by Allah (s.w) to reveal Islam to the masses and we must have the sense of responsibility to spread this religion worldwide, to the best of our ability. In fact, most people on facebook do not utilize their opportunity to pass on a word of Islam to their thousands of friend; they feel as a waste of time! they forget that they have a responsibility which Allah shall ask about it on the Great Day, We can easily propagate Islam on Facebook through our status updates!; sending messages to friends, linking Islamic Information website etc.The Holy Qur'an has more than 6000 verses which are the bank of human life. The Prophet of Islam, who is also the Great Teacher of Mankind, has millions of words that we can use as daily statuses to teach others the true Islam! I encourage my fellow Muslim brothers and sisters to exploit this highly popular social network on propagating the true message of Islam, and quitall the useless writings which are liable to be punished by Spreading and propagating Islam via Facebook, Twitter andothers is something which cannot slip away from us. Thus, we must have the eagerness to address the hearts of people and try to convey the light of Islam to them through this Facebook! I also take this as an opportunity to all my friends tovisit my profile to view my note,and if u have the acces of publishing pls help me publish it. It can be books,pamphlets,asan article on websites without even informing me. Facebook shall be a centre for Islamic Propagation and Education

In preparation for EIDIL FITRI,

 any woman who extend her hair by attaching fake or attachment hair is cursed and also any woman who uses perfume is an adultress•

Hadith-----
 An Ansari woman gave her daughter in marriage and the hair of the latter started
 falling out. The Ansari women came to the Prophet and mentioned

 that to him and said, "Her (my daughter's) husband suggested that I should let her
 wear false hair." The Prophet said, "No, (don't do that) for Allah
 sends His curses upon such ladies who lengthen their hair artificially."

Hadith - Bukhari 7:133, Narrated 'Aisha , see also Bukhari 7:818

The Prophet
 (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
 him) said : “Any woman who puts on
 perfume and goes out and passes by
 people so that they can smell her
 fragrance is a zaaniyah (adulteress)
 and every eye is zaaniyah (because it
 looks at haraam things).”

Narrated by
 Ahmad, al-Nasaa’i and al-Haakim from
 the hadeeth of Abu Moosa (may Allaah
 be pleased with him).

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz,
 Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh
 ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Qa’ood.
 Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (17/124,
 125)

Note: In saudi Arabia and Arab  the moon has not been sighted which means they will fast tomorrow, as for ''UAE'' dubai we are still waiting for the sultan to announce to us if it had been sighted or we continue fasting.
.
Note: Whoever sleep till after fajr without the intention of fasting tomorrow and then the moon wasn't sighted will have no fasting and will have to make it up after ramadan. I believe we all know this hadith

MUSLIMS PREFER CALLING ALLAH AS ALLAH, INSTEAD OF THE ENGLISH WORD 'GOD', BECAUSE:

The Arabic word 'Allah' is pure and unique, unlike the English word 'God'. 

(1) A person can play around with the english word 'God' . . . 

(2) God+s= Gods: if you add the alphabet 's' to 'God' it becomes 'Gods' that is plural of 'God'. Allah is One and Singular, there is no plural of Allah . . .

(3) God+dess=Goddess: if you add 'dess' to 'God' it becomes 'Goddess' that is a female God. There is nothing like male 'Allah' of female 'Allah', Allah has no gender . . .

(4) God+father= Godfather: if you add the word 'father' to 'God' it becomes 'Godfather', he is my Godfather i.e he is my guardian. There is nothing like 'Allah Abba' or 'Allah father' in Islam . . .

(5) God+mother=Godmother: if you add the word 'mother' to 'God' it becomes 'Godmother'. There is nothing like 'Allah ammi' or 'Allah mother' in Islam . . .

(6) Tin+God= tinGod: if you put 'tin' before 'God' it becomes 'tinGod' i.e a fake God. There is nothing like 'tin Allah' or 'fake Allah' in Islam . . .

Allah is an Unique word, with which can neither conjure up a mental picture, nor can it be played arround with. 'Allah' is the name mentioned for the One Unique and True God in the Holy Qur'an. Therefore, muslims prefer calling 'Allah', but sometimes while speaking to non-muslims we may have to use the inappropriate word 'God' for Allah . . 

No matter what name we have in this world, 


at the end we all will be called
 "MAYYiT"
 Whatever luxurious vehicles we drive today, at the end we will be taken as
 "JANAZA"

 No matter house we staying in today, at the end we have to live in
"QABAR"
 whatever clothes we wear today at the end we will be wearing
"KAFAN"
 No matter how far we travel in this world, at the end we have to fly off with a common
VISA:
 "KULLU NAFSIN ZA'IQATUL MAUT" . . .

May Allah make our journey easy and make our final destination Jannah Firdaus . Amen!

Committing sins while fasting can ruin your fast.

 You see some people listening to music while fasting, other fixing attachment hair to their hair, some dancing, lying, wearing tight fitted cloth etc


The Prophet (peace and blessings


 of Allaah be upon him) said: “When
 any of you is fasting, let him not
 commit sin…”


(Reported by al-
 Bukhaari, al-Fath, no. 1904).

The
 Prophet (peace and blessings of
 Allaah be upon him) said:
 “Whoever does not stop speaking
 falsehood and acting in accordance
 with it, Allaah has no need of him
 giving up his food and drink.”


(Al-
 Bukhaari, al-Fath, no. 1903).

The
 person who is fasting should avoid
 all kinds of haraam actions, such
 as backbiting, obscenity and lies,
 otherwise his reward may all be
 lost. The Prophet (peace and
 blessings of Allaah be upon him)
 said: “It may be that a fasting
 person gets nothing from his fast
 except hunger.”


(Reported by Ibn
 Maajah, 1/539;

May Allah! have mercy on you.Amen

How should we welcome the month of ramadaan? 

Praise be to Allaah. The month of Ramadaan is the best month of the year, because Allaah has chosen it to make fasting this month obligatory and the fourth pillar of Islam and He has prescribed for the Muslims to spend its nights in prayer, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Islam is built on five (pillars): testimony that there is no god but Allaah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah, establishing prayer, paying zakaah, fasting Ramadaan and performing pilgrimage to the House (Ka’bah).” Agreed upon. And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever spend the nights of Ramadaan in prayer out of faith and in the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.” Agreed upon. I do not know of any specific way of welcoming Ramadaan, but the Muslim should welcome it with joy and happiness and thanking Allaah for enabling him to reach Ramadaan, for He has caused him to be among the living who compete in doing righteous deeds. Reaching Ramadaan is a great blessing from Allaah. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to give his companions the glad tidings of the arrival of Ramadaan and explain its virtues, and the great reward that Allaah has prepared for those who fast and who spend the night in prayer. It is prescribed for the Muslim to welcome this blessed month with sincere repentance and preparations to fast and pray qiyaam, with a sound intention and sincere resolve. End quote. Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) Majmoo’ Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi’ah (15/9)

There will come a day, when everyone will look to your name to find that you are .. « Offline » !!

--------- Your loved ones will wait for you to chat with them,
--------► but you will never come ..!
---------- They will send you e-mails,
---------►but you will never reply ...!
--------- They will wait for you for hours,
---------► but you will never be online ...!

Your status will always be “ Offline ” !

THAT DAY YOU WILL BE GONE ....

You won’t be able to chat with them or even comment on something ,
You won’t be able to apologize for the ones you hurt or wronged ,
You won’t be with us that day,

YOU WILL BE -----► in a deep,
---------------------► dark hole !
---------------------►all alone..
---------------------►Maybe you will be regretting your bad deeds !
---------------------►Maybe your good deeds will keep you company..

You will leave us, nothing remain after you but what you wrote/share with your friends ..So be sure that you won't leave nothing but current good deeds after you'll be gone ,

►One day, everyone will be judged
►So try quickly to change and to be better
►Simply, because you are now “ Online ”

HOW ABOUT YOU EXAM ! !

THE BEST EXAM ?

► When we are in Examination Rooms:
 • We are not allowed to copy or cheat from others,
 • We are not allowed to open a book when we forget,
 • We are not allowed to help anyone else to pass the exam!

► How Easy is the Exam from ALLAH:
 • We are totally allowed to copy the Righteous and the Pious, ( Life of Prophet and his Progeny )
 • We always have the Book (Qur'an) to open when we Forget.
 • We are even encouraged to help others in this exam and by doing so we get bonus points too [reward similar to theirs].
 • Love ALLAH and his wonderful Deen ♥
 • May Allah (الله) Forgive Us & Pass Our Final Exam (Amen

10 TIPS ON HOW TO CONCETRATE DURING SALAT (PRAYERS

▼▽▼ 10 (TIPS ON HOW TO CONCETRATE DURING SALAT (PRAYERS) ▼▽▼

Number1.
 Before standing up for Prayer, try to deal with all the minor urgent matters which demand your attention. If you are pressed by hunger, eat first;
if you are pressed to attend to the call of nature, relieve yourself; if you are the parent of an infant, feed him or her, or keep him or her busy.

Number2.
 Perform your wudu’(ablution) well, paying due care and attention.

Number3.
 Approach the Prayer with zest and passion as if it is the last prayer in your life before dying. Actually the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that we could do nothing in this world that could ever surpass Prayer in merit and excellence.

Number4.
 Visualize that in your Prayer you are going to have a special audience with Allah, Lord of the worlds, and that you are enjoying a direct communion with Him—which, in fact, is true.

Number5.
 Think of the Prayer you are performing as if it were the last Prayer of your life. Infact, it could very well be the last one, since no one is given a guarantee that he would live to perform another Prayer.

Number6.
Picture the scene of the Last Day when people will be lined up into two groups, one destined for Heaven, and another for Hell, and ask yourself where you would be placed.

Number7.
 Focus your mind on what you are reading in your Prayer and recite simple suurats that you understand it's meaning and ponder on the meaning while you recite.

Number8.
 If, in spite of your best efforts, your mind is still wandering, seek refuge in Allah and bring your mind back to Prayer.

Number9.
Pray to Allah and beg Him to grant you true the joy of concentrating in your Prayer and protection against the wanderings of your mind.

number10.
Place your eye sight to the one spot where you will be making your sujuud while you recite and avoid taking your eyes from that spot.

 
May Allah protect us from the tricks of shaitan during prayers and forgive us our mistakes...

◂▸ WHEN YOU GET MARRIED YOU WILL BE RICH ACCORDINGLY ◂▸

Allaah says:

"And marry those among you
 who are single (i.e. a man who has
 no wife and the woman who has no
 husband) and (also marry) the
 Salihun (pious, fit and capable
 ones) of your (male) slaves and
 maid-servants (female slaves). If
 they be poor, Allah will enrich them
 out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-
 Sufficent for His creatures' needs,
 All-Knowing (about the state of the
 people)."

Quran surah Nur verse 32

Ali bin AbuTalha
 reported from Ibn `Abbas:

"Allah
 encouraged them to get married,
 commanded both free men and
 servants to get married, and He
 promised to enrich them.''

﴿ﺇِﻥ ﻳَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍْ ﻓُﻘَﺮَﺁﺀَ ﻳُﻐْﻨِﻬِﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪُ ﻣِﻦ ﻓَﻀْﻠِﻪِ﴾

(If they be poor, Allah will enrich them
 out of His bounty.)

It was recorded that
 Ibn Mas`ud said: "Seek the richness
 through marriage, for Allah says:

﴿ﺇِﻥ ﻳَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍْ ﻓُﻘَﺮَﺁﺀَ ﻳُﻐْﻨِﻬِﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪُ ﻣِﻦ ﻓَﻀْﻠِﻪِ﴾

(If they be poor, Allah will enrich them
 out of His bounty.)''
 This was recorded
 by Ibn Jarir.

Al-Baghawi also recorded
 something similar from `Umar.
 It was
 reported from Al-Layth from
 Muhammad bin `Ajlan from Sa`id Al-
 Maqburi from Abu Hurayrah that the
 Messenger of Allah said:

»ﺛَﻠَﺎﺛَﺔٌ ﺣَﻖٌّ ﻋَﻠَﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪِ ﻋَﻮْﻧُﻬُﻢْ: ﺍﻟﻨَّﺎﻛِﺢُ ﻳُﺮِﻳﺪُ
 ﺍﻟْﻌَﻔَﺎﻑَ، ﻭَﺍﻟْﻤُﻜَﺎﺗَﺐُ ﻳُﺮِﻳﺪُ ﺍﻟْﺄَﺩَﺍﺀَ، ﻭَﺍﻟْﻐَﺎﺯِﻱ ﻓِﻲ
 ﺳَﺒِﻴﻞِ ﺍﻟﻠﻪِ«

(There are three whom it is a right
 upon Allah to help: one who gets
 married seeking chastity; a slave who
 makes a contract with his master with
 the aim of buying his freedom; and one
 who fights for the sake of Allah.)
This
 was recorded by Imam Ahmad, At-
 Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah.

The
 Prophet performed the marriage of a
 man who owned nothing but his waist
 wrap, and could not even buy a ring
 made of iron, but he still married him
 to that woman, making the Mahr (dowry) his
 promise to teach her whatever he knew
 of the Qur'an. And it is known from the
 generosity and kindness of Allah that
 He provided him with whatever was
 sufficient for her and for him.

--- Tafsir ibn kathir surah Nur

Excellence of using the right Hand for Performing various good Acts

 Allah, the Exalted, says:

"Then as for him who will be given his Record in his right hand will say: `Take, read my Record!''' (69:19)

"So those on the Right Hand (i.e., those who will be given their Records in their right hands) how (fortunate) will those be on the Right Hand! (As a respect for them, because they will enter Jannah). And those on the Left Hand (i.e., those who will be given their Record in their left hands) how (unfortunate) will those be on the Left Hand! (As a disgrace for them, because they will enter Hell).'' (56:8,9)

721. `Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) liked to use his right hand in all matters: in combing his hair and wearing his shoes.

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

722. `Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: Messenger of Allah was used to using his right hand for performing Wudu' and for eating his food whereas he was used to using his left hand in his toilet and for other similar purposes.

[Abu Dawud]

Commentary: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) used to use his left hand in washing his private parts and cleaning his nose and similar things, Muslims are obliged to follow his example.

723. Umm `Atiyyah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) instructed us at the time of washing the dead body of his daughter Zainab (May Allah be pleased with her) to begin with her right side, and from the parts that are washed in Wudu'.

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary: Here we are told about the excellence of washing the dead starting with their right side, Umm `Atiyyah (May Allah be pleased with her) was one of those women who had washed the dead body of the Prophet's daughter Zainab (May Allah be pleased with her). Messenger of Allah (PBUH) directed these women to do as mentioned above. We infer from this Hadith that either women should wash the dead body of a woman or this job should be done by her husband.

724. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "When any of you puts on his shoes, he should put on the right one first; and when he takes them off, he should begin with the left. Let the right shoe be the first to be put on and the last to be taken off.''

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary: This Hadith sheds light on the etiquette of wearing as well as removing shoes. Every Muslim is supposed to have regard for the Prophetic example and to follow

The Death is behind us and the Grave is at the front . . . Then, how prepare are you?

Are we ready for Akhira ? Death comes unannounced!!!

Everyone who is taken by death asks for one more time, while everyone who still has time makes excuses for procrastination. (Saidina 'Ali) R.A 

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Allaah SWT says in d Glorious QURAN

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُلْهِكُمْ أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُمْ عَن ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ [٦٣:٩]
O ye who believe! Let not your riches or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. If any act thus, the loss is their own. 

وَأَنفِقُوا مِن مَّا رَزَقْنَاكُم مِّن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَ أَحَدَكُمُ الْمَوْتُ فَيَقُولَ رَبِّ لَوْلَا أَخَّرْتَنِي إِلَىٰ أَجَلٍ قَرِيبٍ فَأَصَّدَّقَ وَأَكُن مِّنَ الصَّالِحِينَ [٦٣:١٠]
and spend something (in charity) out of the substance which We have bestowed on you, before Death should come to any of you and he should say, "O my Lord! why didst Thou not give me respite for a little while? I should then have given (largely) in charity, and I should have been one of the doers of good". 

وَلَن يُؤَخِّرَ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِذَا جَاءَ أَجَلُهَا ۚ وَاللَّهُ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ [٦٣:١١]
But to no soul will Allah grant respite when the time appointed (for it) has come; and Allah is well acquainted with (all) that ye do.

Our Lord! Grant us good in this world and good in the hereafter, and save us from the chastisement of the fire
 [2:201]


Allah, the, Exalted says:


"And all of you beg Allah to forgive you, O
believers, that you may... be successful".


(Quran24:31)

OH! ALLAAH SAVE ALL D MUSLIM UMMAH 

Alhamdulilah we are muslim

No One Loves You More Than Your Beautiful Creator
Created You With Love, Wanting To See You Smile

Ready to share your pain, Helping you go further
You take a step towards Him, Allah will turn to you a mile

... 

You give Him a share of your love, Allah will give you more
If you are trapped in darkness, Allah will shower you with light

No one understand you more than you Glorious Lord
When no one wants to listen, Allah will Listen to you

When no one wants to know, Allah will be your friend
Don't ever think you're alone, Allah is always with you

Don't ever be afraid, Allah will give you sustenance
The Beauty of His Mercy and Compassion bestowed upon you

Is a part of all His Signs to show His Love for you
Who will then reject His Love? Reject His Companionship?

Truly they will be unsuccessful in this world and in the Hereafter
Don't throw away the benevolence of His Love

Don't leave the only True Friend you have
Because Allah Loves you more than anybody does ♥

► SHARE This Reminder ...~*~

Dua is only gift that you can give All us..please Dua for all muslim UMMAH

When you go to the masjid don't hurry to join the congregation as this will cause you to lose your breath and lessen your concentration, instead proceed with tranquility . . . Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated: "When you hear the iqama, proceed to offer the prayer with calmness and solemnity and do not make haste. And pray whatever you are able to pray and complete whatever you have missed . . . [Bukhari vol 1 book 11 No 609] 

How blessed I am 2 b a muslim!

How blessed I am 2 b a muslim!

I say a simple salam 2 some1,

I am rewarded,

♥♥♥

I smile at some1,

I am rewarded

♥♥♥

I pray in masjid with jamaat,

I am rewarded

27 times more than who pray alone,

♥♥♥

I begin anything with Bismillah,

that action of mine is rewarded

♥♥♥

I think of doing a good deed,

I am rewarded,

♥♥♥

I control my temper,

I am rewarded,

♥♥♥

I hold the glass with my right hand,

while drinking, I am rewarded,

Allhamdulillah!

In Search For IdeaL WiFe!!
(I m not sure whether this is a true story or not! But, it's awesome! MUST READ!!)

Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasised for him to get married. they had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.

However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say “she’s not the one!...”

The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing, however one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious, and practicing.

On that evening, the young man, and girl, were left to talk, and ask each other questions. (As one would expect).

The young man, being a gentleman that he was allowed, the lady to ask first.

The young girl asked the young man so many questions, she asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his pastime, his experiences, his shoe size..

The young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring, and politely, with a smile the young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour, and felt bad, and asked the young man do you have any questions?

The young man said, it’s ok. I only have 3 questions…

The young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, shoot.

The young man’s first question was, Who do you love the most in the world, someone who’s love nothing would ever overcome?

She said, this is an easy question; my mother, he smiled second question, he asked, you said that you read a lot of qur’an, could you tell me which surahs you know the meaning of?

Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said, I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon insha’allah I’ve just been a bit busy.the third question the young man asked, was I have been approached for my hand in marriage, by girls that are a lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you?

Hearing this the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury, and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty, and intelligence. And the young man and his parents, were once again, left without an agreement of marriage.

This time, the young mans parents were really angry, and said what did you do to anger that girl, the family were so nice, and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl?? Tell us!

The young man said, firstly I asked her, who do you love the most? she said, her mother,

The parents said so, what is wrong with that??

The young man said, “no one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah, and his messenger (saw) more than anyone else in the world”

If a woman loves Allah and the Prophet (pbuh) and his progeny more than anyone, she will love me and respect me, and stay faithful to me, because of that love, and fear for Allah (swt). and we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.

The young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of qur’an, can you tell me the meaning of any surah?

And she said no, because I haven’t had time yet. so I thought of that hadith “ALL humans, are dead except for those who have knowledge” She has lived 20 years and not found ANY time, to seek knowledge, why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights, and responsibilities, and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman IS the madrasa (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman who has no time for Allah, will not have time for her husband.

The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose you?

That is why she stormed off, getting angry. The young man’s parents said that is a horrible thing to say, whywould you do such a thing, we are going back there to apologise. The young man said I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.

The Prophet (saw) said “do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry” when asked how to become pious; because anger is from Satan.

If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she has just met,do you think she will be able to control it with her husband??

So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on:

*knowledge, not looks,

*practice, not preaching,

*Forgiveness, not anger,

*spiritual love, not lust.

*and compromise

One should look for a person who

1) Has love for Allah (swt) and the messenger (saw) and his family (a.s)

2) Has knowledge of the deen, and can act upon it.

3) can control their anger

4) and willing to compromise.